There are few things more painful than when Christian friendships go wrong. I have thought about this a lot over the years as I have had my share of friendships that have gone up in flames like they were doused with gasoline. Does this resonate with you? No matter how many times it has happened to me, the pain has …
Does God Care about Our Pain and Suffering?
Everywhere we look there is chaos… Afghanistan… Haiti… COVID… I imagine as things seem to be falling apart around the world, people are wondering, “Where is God?” It is a reasonable question as it can appear that He is silent, permitting suffering to happen that by nature, we are told He has the power to prevent and control. Yet in …
A Messy Faith
As some of you already know, this last year and a half has been very difficult on my family and I. In the beginning of this year I suffered from a traumatic brain injury that was so difficult and distressing that I have begun to see a trauma counselor to help me process and heal. I find myself not who …
No Friend, Suffering Is Not Relative, Not Even A Little
rel·a·tive /ˈrelədiv/ “Adjective – considered in relation or in proportion to something else.” I can’t tell you how many times I have heard people say “suffering is relative.” To be honest, in the past I have been guilty of saying it a few times myself. One thing I have learned over the years of my life and the many trials …
When God Seems Scary
How do I trust God again? That’s the question I keep on asking myself. I keep on reading all these books on suffering from brilliant men and women whose greatest trials seem overwhelmingly insignificant. I don’t want to hear someone tell me to trust the Lord when their greatest difficulty still allows for breaks and downtime. I have no downtime …
Lessons on Prayer from the Garden of Gethsemane
I don’t think people grasp the extent of my injury. In a trial, as a Christian, I should have access to hope, peace, grace, a sound mind, a spirit with no fear, God’s presence, etc…unfortunately because of my injury, none of those are present. My mind is so confused that sometimes I say “I don’t want to do this” as …
The God Who Doesn’t Sleep
And He came to the disciples and found them sleeping, and said to Peter, “So, you men could not keep watch with Me for one hour?” Matthew 26:40 As I have reflected on Jesus and His suffering in the garden, I have thought about how the disciples fell asleep three times while Jesus was praying nearby. I have read the …
Love One Another: The Gift of Friendship
I began my 5th-month post-injury on the 6th. It has been a heck of a rollercoaster already. There is so much I have learned already and so much I am still learning. I see the Lord’s hands in different ways since my injury. One thing I have seen is the way that the Lord uses friendships during our most difficult …
Jesus Knows My Suffering
The other day a friend came over and said four words to me “What happened to you?”. The question was humbling and clearly had to do with how undone this trial has made me. It was a hard question for me to receive as I am still wondering the same thing myself. What has happened to me? I can’t explain …
The True Rock
This is a guest post from a very special and good friend of mine, Myndi Orr, author of “Don’t Waste Your Pain.” She has selflessly come alongside me and has walked with me from the beginning of my injury. She is a woman of great faith and courage who, by God’s help, has fought her own battle of pain and …